Woman ‘ho.ified’ after accidentally

A woman shared on Mumsnet how she stumbled upon disturbing messages on her husband’s phone while trying to plan a surprise birthday party for him. Hoping to find contact details for his friends, she opened a WhatsApp group and was shocked to read that her husband described their marriage as miserable, saying he wished he could have an affair but feared losing money, housing, and custody of their son. His friends didn’t object—instead, they sympathized and joked along, discussing other women and making disrespectful remarks.

The woman admitted she continued reading more messages and found even worse things—her husband lied about her, calling her lazy and financially dependent. She said the most painful part was realizing his friends supported this behavior. After sitting on the discovery for three weeks, she decided to make a plan to leave, though she hadn’t confronted him yet, feeling guilty for looking at his phone. Online commenters supported her decision, with some even suggesting dramatic ways to expose him. Many encouraged her to seek legal advice and prioritize her well-being, emphasizing that she deserves far better.